Posted By on April 13, 2009

Today has been a rough day. I woke up this morning to news that little Thalon Myers had died. Shana and her family have been asking for our prayers since the weekend, when he went into the hospital. And I prayed. I prayed hard. Because we lost another baby less than a week ago and no parent should have to bury their child. I was in church on Sunday and even though I am a heathen, I asked God to help little Thalon and his mommy. I prayed for God to hear me and make that little boy well.

Babies shouldn’t die. Babies are adorable, they smell good, they are innocent and bring joy to so many people. Babies shouldn’t die. Parents shouldn’t bury their kids. This much heartbreak and sadness in a week should be outlawed.

My heart breaks for Shana and her family. I have never met Shana in person, but we became blog friends at the end of last year. I immediately fell in love with her and her adorable kids and her sense of humor. I wanted to make a trip to Oklahoma because I was sure that once we met in person, we would be fast friends and drinking buddies for life.

I don’t understand why these things happen. No one ever will. But I want to make it easier for Shana and her husband Rich and their two little girls, Thalon’s sisters, who were the proudest big sisters. Because I can’t even imagine what they are going through. I can’t fathom the devastating loss.

My heart is heavy. It has been a hard week for everyone on the internet. But as sad and broken as we are, it is such an amazing community that we are apart of. How so many people have rallied around these two families who have lost their babies, helping in any way they can, is amazing. These two families have millions of people out in the world, strangers and friends, praying for them and hoping that one day, it will get easier. All we want to do is make it easier for them. It’s all we can do.

I wish we could do more. I wish we could all erase their pain, but I know that isn’t possible. I wish I could take some of that pain away, and that they could burden me with it. If only it were that easy.

But all we can do is keep Shana and her family in our thoughts and prayers. And help out in any way that we can, help them get through this hard time.

If you would like to help the Myers family with costs and expenses, Sarah has set up a PayPal account where you can donate. Click here and find the Love for Thalon donate button in the sidebar.

To Maddie and Thalon up there in heaven, you two be sure that you look out for your mommies. They’re going to need all the added strength they can get in the coming weeks and months.

And for the rest of us, let’s vow to be nicer, more understanding, more loving. And hug our friends and family a little bit tighter so they know how much they are loved.

About the author

Kristabella, who also answers to “Hey! Drunk Girl!”, is a reformed band geek with an amazing ability to drink most people under the table. You can read her inane ramblings here, where she talks about her exciting life as a spinster with two cats and a fascination for Bacon.


13 Responses to “Sadness”

  1. Angella says:

    I cannot imagine. And don’t want to.

    All I can do is try to help and hold my babies closer. And spread love in any way I can.

    Angellas last blog post..Love for Thalon

  2. You are so, so, so right. Babies just shouldn’t die. Period. End of story. And I don’t get how it can happen, how there could ever be a reason behind it. You are also right that the Internet is a very beautiful, powerful force, and I hope it helps ease the pain for these two families.

    She Likes Purples last blog post..For Thalon

  3. Mahnee says:

    I can’t imagine what those families must be going through. My heart just breaks every time i think of them.

    I love you.

  4. Raven says:

    It’s completely unfair and heartbreaking. I can’t even fathom what they are going through, but I am glad that they have such a huge network of support to lean on, to help them.

  5. Christina says:

    It has been a rought week for some of our favorite moms. I hope that they can find some sort of peace. It is so heartbreaking!

    Christinas last blog post..Half way details

  6. whoorl says:

    Such a heartbreaking time. UGH UGH UGH. (Thank you for spreading the word about Thalon’s account.)

  7. TUWABVB says:

    I’m seriously crying “uncle” to the month of April. Every thing is upside down – everything that shouldn’t happen has. My perspective is completely lost.

    TUWABVBs last blog post..A life with love will have some thorns, but no roses.

  8. Metalia says:

    It’s all so heartbreaking. The only bright spot is, as you pointed out, the beautiful way everyone came together. May these families find some comfort soon.

    Metalias last blog post..For Maddie and Thalon

  9. Julie C says:

    Our thoughts and prayers are with Thalon and Maddie’s parents. I can’t begin to imagine their pain, and I pray for them to find strength each day.

    Julie Cs last blog post..Easter Week Rewind

  10. Darcey says:

    Yeah, I just got all teary-eyed.
    My heart goes out to Maddie and Thalon’s parents.

  11. Scarlet says:

    Oh man, that’s just awful:(

  12. Sheri says:

    My mom and dad’s first two children died. You don’t ever get over it. I will keep these two families in my thoughts and prayers.

    Sheris last blog post..Sickety Sick Sick