It Must Have Been The Fake Uggs From Target
Posted By Kristabella on December 14, 2008
So this afternoon I went out to the grocery store to do my weekly shopping. I also had to go out to Staples because I had to buy more envelopes. Because Kodak Gallery thought it would be genius to send me only 80 envelopes when I ordered 140 Christmas cards. Because that is new math or something. And since it is getting close to Christmas as it is, I don’t really want to wait another week for the rest of the envelopes. So I had to drop more money on these envelopes and I told Kodak Gallery to use my extra envelopes to wipe their asses or line the litter box.
(I don’t think this actually conveys how mad I am about this. In addition, Staples didn’t have the exact size envelope, so there are like 30 cards that are being sent in a bigger envelope. And I’m sure it looks stupid, but at this point I DO NOT CARE. I just want to have these cards out the door.)
So by the time I got to the grocery store, I was already irritated. Mostly because I had to put on a bra and leave the house. And also because I leave everything to do on Sundays and I get mad at myself every Sunday when I have to cram a whole weekend of stuff into a few hours. Because I don’t ever get up at a reasonable time and have quite a bit of shows to watch on my DVR.
Anyway, that was not really what I wanted to talk about. I wanted to rant about the bitch in the grocery store.
I was standing in line to check out, waiting for the idiot in front of me to unload her stuff from her cart. She seemed a bit frazzled and annoyed. I don’t know why. Maybe she didn’t get enough envelopes either. It can really mess a person up. So as she’s checking out, the cashier asks her if she would like to donate money to a food bank for those in need this holiday season. The lady gets all ranty and says “no, I’m the one that should be getting the charity, not giving to charity. Unlike the rest of these people in this store.” And then she proceeds to FULL-ON STARE AT ME! As to say “I am talking about you, bitch!”
Now I will admit, I was at a Jewel in Lincoln Park. It is a nice Jewel and most of the people who shop there are probably not hurting. But that does NOT give her the right to judge. And it also does not give this woman the right to judge ME. I mean, I didn’t even say anything about your SWEAT PANTS and you hair that hadn’t seen a brush or comb in WEEKS.
I was really put off. Part of it was the fact that she was shopping at this Jewel and had money to buy food. She probably drove to the store in a car and were taking those Stouffer’s meals home to a house with a fridge and a freezer. So you are SO MUCH BETTER OFF THAN A LOT OF PEOPLE.
The other part of it was because I live paycheck to paycheck. Yes, I just recently had a few extra ducats to buy an iPhone. But I was also just unemployed. So how dare you judge me and my cart full of generic groceries. Was it because I was wearing a down jacket? One I got on sale for like 50% off because my old one was falling apart? Was it my $30 purse from New York & Company? Was it my fake Ugg boots from Target? What was it, exactly, that told you that I was clearly not hurting for money? IN A RECESSION.
I know I judge people. I’m Full of Snark, for Pete’s sake. And maybe this is just karma’s way of teaching me a lesson to be less judgey of people. But that doesn’t make me any less pissed off. (Or make me vow to be less judgey. Let’s be realistic people.)
This year, during this holiday season, I’ve tried to help and give to people that need it. I tried to get my family to change our annual holiday gift card exchange to a donation to charity. Because none of us need anything. I gave money to the cashier when I checked out because I have $5 to give to a food bank. And I should be giving more than that and I should be giving every time I go to the grocery store, at least.
I’m not sure what the point of this post is. I was just so irritated by that woman and her outright judging of people in a grocery store because of where they shopped or what they wore or what they bought. Even though she was in the same exact store. And I’m guessing she didn’t drive up from the South side to go to the Jewel in Lincoln Park. Glass houses and stones and all that.
Appearances are just that. Had I not been so flabbergasted by her statement (and distracted by the tabloid that said the Obama election was illegal) I would have told her that out loud. And not in my head. Because we’re going through some tough economic times right now and we should all be thankful for what we have and remember that there are plenty of people out there that have it a lot worse than we do.
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Amen, sister.
And you better not give up the snark because it is one of my favorite things about you 😉
Yeah! I mean, I don’t give money to the bell ringers, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to make rude remarks about people who DO. Geez, people.
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Unfortunately, some people are just like that. I’m sorry you had to put up with her.
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people are always going to judge, no matter what. People think they KNOW what others are going through. It’s common human nature. That doesn’t make it hurt any less, tho. I’m sorry she was craptastic at christmas. Maybe they sent her 80 envelopes that DIDN’T FIT THE CARD. That would probably send ME over the edge.
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140 christmas cards? i’m so happy i’m jewish right now. hahaha. you get a cd from me. merry christmas. 😉
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Maybe she thought you were Paris Hilton. Those sexy Target boots do it everytime!
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I know I have felt on both sides of the fence with this one.
But, like you, have even felt priveleged that I could put a roof over my head and food in my belly. As tight as I have been in recent years, I have never gone without shelter or food. It really is the simple things in life that make for a happy life.
She needs to be touched by the magic of the season 🙂
I seriously don’t understand her attitude. What was so different about you? She was shopping at the same store.
You should have told her that “charity begins at home.” (My mom has been saying that for years and it never made any sense to me – nor did it ever seem appropriate. I’ll have to call her later and tell her that I finally found a proper scenario!). 🙂
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God. One time in college when I was busing to school (a 2 hour journey over land and sea each way), I was dead sick and just barely able to keep my head from rolling off my shoulder when a random lady got up and proceeded to berate me for being so judgmental and don’t I just have it so good and oh yes, she can TELL what I’m thinking about her and I should just get the hell off my high horse. My glands were so swollen I couldn’t even eek out a response (medication is a luxury when you’re living on student loans), but man, that still burns me up today. I realize this person was most likely crazy and in need of some brain medicine herself, but really, even crazy random people need to check the judginess and assumptions about everyone around them.
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I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have been as nearly as nice. Sheesh! WTH is wrong with people this year?
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That is wild-o-rama!
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This reminds me of one of my favorite stories to tell…so I’m going to:
This homeless man was famous in DC for always being in front of the Black Cat and he would yell, “Black Cat, Black Cat A little help for the homeless!” People waiting in lines for shows would give him money or their leftovers and he was just always there. One time, my sister and I went to a show there and as we walked by him (after the show, I’m pretty sure) he yelled, “You rich snobby bitch!” bc I didn’t stop. I turned around and yelled back, “I AM NOT RICH!”
anyway, it makes me laugh to think about. It probably doesn’t translate well in text:)
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I really hate those store clerks who ask you if you’d like to donate to charity and then glare at you and silently judge when you don’t. Because if I gave to everyone that asked me (+the 1,437 bums who hit me up for change on a daily basis in SF), I would be the one on the receiving end of charity very soon!
And I also hate people like the Jewel lady who just make inaccurate assumptions…since I live in South City, and as I’m sure you remember, it’s predominantly Hispanic, every time I go down the street to the Starbucks or Laundromat, I SWEAR all the neighbors glare at me and give me menacing looks that say, “Cracka, git yo ass back to your fancy middleclass ‘hood where you belong.” Like based on my skin color alone, that must mean I’m rolling in the dough. (Not. True.)
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Oh boy! I hope this isn’t a sign of things to come with the economy in the toilet. People are getting mean. I heard some pundit the other day claim that there will be riots and looting if it keeps getting worse. God help us.
It’s just not cool to judge other people out loud. That’s why we’ve been given this magical gift of being able to THINK things.
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I think that woman was deficient in alot more things than just money.
Hopefully she lives alone, so no one had to hear any more of her miserable comments once she got home.
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See, when I’ve been pushed I say things I shouldn’t. Things like, “Gee, I really like your sense of entitlement! Where do I get one for myself?”
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The poor checker probably felt so uncomfortable. And, dude Stouffer’s meals can be spendy!
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Ugh. Why can’t people running errands on the weekend observe the same rules as commuters on the el on a Monday morning? There shall be no talking to your fellow sufferers.
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I’m going to say it was definitely the fake Uggs. Also, since when did a simple “no thank you” and a smile not suffice? When did bitchiness and nastiness become the preferred tone of people? I’m annoyed FOR YOU.
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I would have been enraged. In fact, I am feeling a little ragey on your behalf.
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I would have said something to her. I just know I would have. You’re a much better person than I. 😉
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Uggs make very good weapons, you know.
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Lemme guess … what was in her cart — Parliament menthols and a case of budweiser? I’m right, aren’t I!?!?!?!? Oh, and cheese whiz!!!
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You should have thrown a Target Ugg at her head.
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She must feel guilty for something. Bitch.
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You are so much nicer than me. I wouldn’t have been able to not say something back. Something along the lines of “at least when I judge people I don’t do it while I’m doing THE EXACT SAME THING THEY ARE.” Because I have no space between my brain and my mouth sometimes.
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How odd of her to just assume that.
I have generic uggs too, wonder what she’d think of me.
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thats u in the future .. bitch about everything , waste of my five minutes